I am so proud of this finish.
Even my mom loved this one.
When I last showed this piece,
I still needed to stitch
the remaining flowers on the right.
Then I added in all of my
great-grandparents, grandparents,
plus my parents initials.
My paternal family on the left.
My maternal family on the right.
I took it to Hobby Lobby for framing.
Debbie did not disappoint.
I was torn on two black frames.
When she put in this gold insert,
she sold me on this one.
I so love going to her.
She is the best.
I hung it up on my Heritage Wall.
It is on the top left.
As you can see these pieces are all
going up in size.
I did not plan it this way...it just happened.
However the next one will not be that way.
In other news,
mom made it through surgery and is
on the road to finally healing.
She may be transferred today
once again back to rehab for therapy.
I say maybe because the hospital had to give
her another blood transfusion yesterday.
My brother seems to think though she will
only be there for two weeks.
Wednesday night I had a three way call
with my siblings.
I stated everyone thinks mom
is coming back to our house after therapy,
but that is not happening this time.
No one said a word.
Gave them my concerns why
I could not take care of mom this time.
Crickets.
Only when I said~
"well looks like we have to make
arrangements for her to go to
assisted living" did my sister speak up.
"I guess she can come to my house,
but are you willing to take her
some weekends because I will
have my grand dog here sometimes"?
Its ok for me to take care of mom with my dog...
but you cannot take care of her?
Really???
Then she says~
Cant you just get her dressed
before you go to work and put her in
a chair and give her breakfast.
She should be fine until you get back."
I work an hour away.
My sister works 5 minutes from her house.
So according to my sister,
it's alright to leave my mom
in a chair for 10+ hours.
REALLY???
Then she says~
"If I take mom now,
will you be able to take her
once you retire"?
REALLY???
My brother never said a word
about taking care of mom.
He is worried about her money.
Unbelievable.
We spent an hour on the phone.
Am not going to get into any more
family drama...
trust me it got worse.
and now my siblings are not
speaking to me.
Oh well.
I don't care at the moment.
We all have lives...
except they don't think I have one.
Well have to get to work.
I so enjoy my hour drive.
NOT
Hope everyone enjoys their weekend.
Autumn has arrived.
Have to get my mums and pumpkins.
Friday Angel Blessings To All!
Janice
Thankfully I had a very helpful brother and SIL who filled in when I couldn't. I'm one of the few lucky ones. Usually there is one sibling who gets the blunt of the work, and that's you. I'd keep up the conversation about 'living facility' as if it was fact. Give them costs of a place central to all of you so if worse comes to worse you know the facts. Perhaps if they realize (or believe) it is inevitable they will get off the pot and be more helpful.
ReplyDeleteI love your latest finish and the heritage wall.
ReplyDeleteGlad your mom came through the surgery, but ugggh on the family drama. I don't understand how people can even think that way. You can't be the one to do it all.
Yay for Mom coming through surgery OK, hope her rehab stay goes well. Yikes about the siblings. I can understand them being concerned about their lives, not fully comprehending your situation, and needing a minute to think what adjustments they would need to make to take her into their homes, etc. For sister to suggest it's OK to leave your Mom in a chair for 10 hours straight...HELL NO! That ain't right. And for brother worried about her money, understandable, but it's HER money and should be used to give her best care possible now, down to the last penny if need be. If he's worried what might be or not be left for him when she finally does go to the beyond...again, HELL NO!
ReplyDeleteI had an hour commute each way for 38 years. I absolutely do not miss it. At least your sampler came out fantastic and gorgeous.
Hi, I am happy your mom came out of surgery well. I pray the recovery goes well.
ReplyDeleteI am sorry about the family drama. I do not understand why family members feel only ONE sibling is to do all the work.
Great news your Mom did well with the surgery. Sad though that the siblings are acting like children. We had the same issue with my husband’s father. Out of 4 siblings, everyone had an excuse. So we took responsibility and it worked out well. He did go into assisted living while he waited about 6 mos to get into the brand new Veterans Home near us. He loved that place and they took excellent care of him. Just so happened my husband worked there and saw him everyday, as did our son and I volunteered there. Oh and after never talking or writing to him for the 5 years he was there, after he passed, the brother contacted my husband to threaten him about inheritance due him. But Pops had a will and left nothing to them. He didn’t have much anyway but the audacity of some who only think in $$$$
ReplyDeleteLove your stitching. Beautiful frame. Wow.
I love your latest finish I think in family situations like this, that you are going through the true colors of people really show up-sadly If this were me time to check out medicare insurance and your Mom's finances to find a good place for your Mom. My brother went through an organization called a place for mom that helps you do this at no charge to the family. My brother still lived near our Mom up in Indiana(years ago) but we talked about it together.
ReplyDeleteYou stitchery is beautiful. You did a wonderful job!!! A treasure.
ReplyDeleteSad about you and your siblings. Sure doesn't seem right that they expect you to do it all.
Glad to hear your mom surgery went well and hope she recovers quickly.
I do love all your stitching - very nice. Glad to hear your mom's surgery went well and hope she gets better in rehab. Maybe you will just have to place her in a nursing home. My advice is to look now for a good one - put her name on a list.
ReplyDeleteOh, wow!!! That is beautiful! I love it!!!
ReplyDeleteI’m thankful your mom came out of surgery well. I pray all the rest works out quickly and peacefully!!!
Hi Janice I’m sorry, I know how you’re feeling. As I watched my in-laws need extra help no one stepped in-oh, they might show up at Christmas, but doctors appointments, middle of the night emergency room runs, simply visiting to keep spirits up, was not on the sibling radar. I’m absolutely stunned at what people say and do sometimes - or rather don’t do. I’m seeing the same thing with a friend of mine-her father is three hours away, and she drives down every week to clean, mow, go to the grocery, doctors appointments, and in town are two brothers, and an hour away is a sister - zero help. Again stunned is the only word that comes to mind, they would do well to remember, who took care of them when they were little, or going through teenage years - give the respect that they’re due. I hope it all works out-I’ll sure be thinking of you.
ReplyDeleteFirst of all, your finish is wonderful. I can see why you are so pleased with it -- who wouldn't be? And your heritage wall is terrific. I love how they played out. That's good news on the surgery. I think you are right about the assisted living. Places like that can take good care of their people, provide them with company with other residents and give them some sense of independence while providing help. But start looking now. And hold firm. You may be able to find a spot that takes Medicare but if you can't, that's what her own expenses are for, not to leave to children unless that's what's left. Methinks your siblings priorities are a little mixed up. Hang in there.
ReplyDeleteSweet finish.
ReplyDeleteSadly, it usually falls on one sibling. You have been an amazing daughter and it’s time others share in her care. Put mom in a chair for 10 hours a day. ABHORRENT! She ought to be ashamed even suggesting such a thing.
That sampler is so lovely! Good job! I'm so sorry for the family drama. I just wonder why your sibs think you need to shoulder all the caregiving? I sure hope a good outcome can be achieved. Stick to your guns though. They need to step it up. I hope you have a nice weekend Janice.
ReplyDeleteThe sampler is awesome! So is the Heritage wall. I'm sorry about your siblings....I get it, trust me!
ReplyDeleteStunning finish Janice. I recognized that frame immediately - it was 1 of 2 choices for my "Happy Halloween" witch that I framed last year. I ended up not using it but still love it. Unfortunately, our HL framing dept went to h%$# in a hurry. One of the 2 framers quit and has not been replaced. I prepped and took 3 pieces there and waited over an hour and no one helped me. When the framer finally showed up, he walked past me and said he was going to lunch b/c he was supposed to go an hour ago. Thought I'd give them another chance and went back a few weeks later. My experience then was worse. Needless to say, my pieces aren't framed and I'll not use them again. Sadly, the only other choice in this area is Michael's. The family drama is so sad...and so emotionally and physically draining. Like some of the others above, I've been there done that too. My older brother, his wife (who, by the way, was the activities director at a nursing home) and their 3 children lived with my mom rent-free for 20+ years and my sister lived right next to them....both brother and sister retired. But it was my younger brother and me (both of whom lived 20-30 minutes away and were working full-time) who had to take her to her dr appts and try to care for her when my brother decided to move out if he couldn't continue living there for free. And, yep...we were estranged since. Take care of yourself my friend...it's a difficult, bumpy, road you're traveling.
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